Single Parenting in a Pandemic-REACH OUT
We don't compare pain or deny experiences based upon "someone has it worse" in my community. Thus, my comments are not designed to devalue the challenges others face. I am very human and I need to express...
SINGLE PARENTING WITH A CHRONIC ILLNESS AND A CHILD COPING WITH CHRONIC PAIN/ILLNESS/GRIEF (LET'S FACE IT, THIS IS TRAUMATIC FOR THE KIDS) IN THE MIDDLE OF A PANDEMIC WHILE QUARANTINED SINCE FEBRUARY 29TH IS VERY CHALLENGING, ISOLATING AT TIMES, AND CAN BE ALL CONSUMING.
I'M SURE THE KID FEELS THE SAME, HAVING TO GIVE UP ALL THINGS DONE "IN PERSON," ALONG WITH A SUDDEN SHIFT FROM A LIFE FILLED WITH PEOPLE TO A LIFE ONLY WITH HER MOM. GRIEF. SHE NEEDS JUST AS MUCH VALIDATION (IF NOT MORE) AS I DO FOR THE STRUGGLE COPING WITH THIS NEW NORMAL.
FOR BOTH OF US... THERE'S NO END IN SIGHT AS A NEW SURGE IS ONCE AGAIN AT HAND.
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This is my morning quiet time. I cherish my mornings with the back door open and the birds chirping. It's the quiet of my Poustinia. I can even hear the chirping of the ducklings back where the kiddo is sleeping. Soon they will all be awake and it will be time to feed, water, clean, oh boy!
I'm noticing my ears ringing this morning, just as they have been doing for the last week (hope I don't get a migraine with the weather change). The constant tinnitus interrupts the morning calm, yet I've had it most my life so I am not as annoyed by it's presence.
Learning to be present with discomfort AND allow joy to coexist. This is the lesson in nonduality that I've been learning for some time.
In spite of the day to day challenges, I continue to heal every day... continue to have such incredible joy especially with all the animals around us ... continue to love the puddin out of these baby ducklings... continue to cherish this time with my daughter ... and continue to miss Harvey with all my heart.
A practical piece of advice - reach out to your single parent or disabled/ chronically ill friends. They may be so deep in the rabbit hole that they've lost sight of how to make time for themselves... that's where I think I've arrived... thus I'm becoming aware and making changes.
Social distance meet ups can happen.... just at a distance. And sometimes that level of interaction is everything.